What Is Abuse?
8 min read
Abuse isn't just physical. Learn about emotional, psychological, and coercive control — and how to distinguish unhealthy conflict from abuse.
Read article →Learn
Understanding is the first step toward change. Explore research-backed information about relationship patterns, trauma, and the path to healthier dynamics.
When you're in the middle of relationship conflict, it can be hard to see clearly. These educational resources are designed to help you understand what's happening, why patterns repeat, and what options you have.
Take your time. There's no rush. Read what feels relevant to you right now.
Trauma & Stress Responses
12 min read
Fight, flight, freeze, fawn — how your nervous system responds to threat, and why understanding this helps you respond more intentionally.
Read article →Patterns Library
20 min read
A comprehensive guide to recognizing harmful relationship patterns — from accusations and monitoring to isolation and financial control.
Explore patterns →Hormones & Behavior
16 min read
How hormonal changes in both men and women can affect mood, behavior, and relationships — and when to consider medical evaluation.
Read article →Common Stories & Patterns
15 stories
Real-world examples of abuse, coercion, and control. Learn to recognize patterns through stories and find validation and support.
Explore stories →Quick Distinctions
Normal Conflict vs. Abuse
Normal Conflict
- Both people can express concerns
- Disagreements get resolved
- Respect remains even when upset
- You feel safe to disagree
Concerning Patterns
- One person dominates discussions
- Same issues cycle without resolution
- Contempt, control, or intimidation
- Fear prevents honest expression
Explanation vs. Excuse
Understanding why someone behaves a certain way (stress, hormones, trauma) is not the same as excusing harmful behavior. Reasons help us understand; they don't remove responsibility.
A Note on This Content
All content in this section is educational and based on research from reputable sources including the CDC, National Domestic Violence Hotline, and peer-reviewed research. We summarize findings in plain language and encourage you to explore our References page for sources.
This information is not a substitute for professional help. If you need support, please reach out to a qualified professional or contact a crisis resource.