Tools
Relationship Check-In
A private self-assessment to understand patterns in conflict, safety, and connection — without blame.
Safety Note
If you feel unsafe or fear escalation, prioritize safety planning and support. Consider using a private device and a safe network.
- See help options on this site for shelters, legal aid, and support lines.
- In immediate danger, call 911 or your local emergency number.
- For confidential support in the US, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline (call 1-800-799-7233 or text START to 88788).
This check-in surfaces patterns and next steps using neutral language. It does not diagnose, label, or determine who is a victim or abuser.
How is your relationship going?
Answer ~20 quick questions about emotional safety, conflict behavior, control & autonomy, accountability & repair, and stress load. You can skip any item. Answers stay on your device unless you choose to save locally.
No account. No backend. You can clear everything at any time.
You can answer or choose “Prefer not to answer.” Nothing is saved unless you opt in.
Results (pattern-based, not a diagnosis)
Higher scores mean more strain in that domain. Insights suggest next steps; they do not label anyone.
How steady, respected, and emotionally safe the relationship feels day-to-day.
Answered 0 of 5
How conflict starts, escalates, and resolves.
Answered 0 of 4
Boundaries, monitoring, and freedom to make decisions.
Answered 0 of 5
How well apologies, repair attempts, and follow-through happen after conflict.
Answered 0 of 4
How external stress spills into the relationship and conflict patterns.
Answered 0 of 5
What this might mean
Patterns look steadier right now
Current responses show more steady patterns. Keep practicing de-escalation, boundaries, and stress buffers to maintain stability.